What’s your “Legacy” ?

Had a wedding to attend this weekend.

After months of planning, it was beautiful to witness the final result—a celebration of two souls saying yes to legacy.
Not just love, but legacy.

I’ve been thinking a lot about that word lately. Legacy.
Marriage is more than vows and flowers and table settings. It’s a spiritual contract that bridges families. It’s the foundation of a new timeline. A new name. A new energy. A new realm where lineage can bloom.

Now, I’m not oblivious to the shift we’re in. In these evolving times—especially with Pluto now in Aquarius for the next twenty-something years—fewer people will marry. But those who do?
They’ll be doing it with serious intentions. Deep purpose. Future-minded clarity.

And as a 29-year-old woman, living alone, paying her own bills, having once been engaged and walking away with grace—I’m finally understanding what kind of wife I want to be.

Not performative.
Not sacrificial.
Not rushed.

I want to build a dynasty—strong family traditions, secured assets, respected name. A bond that reflects both vision and devotion. I’m so grateful I didn’t have children out of alignment, out of wedlock, or from a place of survival. I want to create legacy on purpose.

So here’s what I’ll share with my fellow single women, especially those of us entering our prime: fine, free, fertile, and fully aware. We’re not lost—we’re learning. And here are 5 real things I’m sitting with:

1. Choose Partnership Over Performance.

Don’t date just to prove you can. Don’t get engaged just to say you did. Pluto in Aquarius is stripping away illusions. Marry someone you can build with—not just look good beside. Ask yourself: can we weather change together?

2. Heal Before You Merge.

Marriage amplifies whatever is already there. If you’re anxious, bitter, or unhealed—that energy will bleed into the union. Use this solo time to get emotionally intelligent. Learn your patterns. Clear old energies. Upgrade your standards. Be the partner you want to attract.

3. Don’t Dim Just to Get Chosen.

You’re not too loud, too successful, or too independent. The right person will not only see you—they’ll make room for your light. You are not here to shrink. You are here to shine and share that shine.

4. Legacy Needs Strategy.

Love is beautiful—but it’s not enough. Start thinking long-term. Do you both want kids? What values guide you? What assets are you building together? Can this person be a parent, a business partner, a spiritual anchor? Get clear—fantasy won’t cut it in the Aquarian era.

5. Be Whole First.

Don’t wait for marriage to treat yourself like a wife. Create stability, joy, and purpose now. Cook for yourself. Dress beautifully for yourself. Keep your space sacred. Your life isn’t on pause—it’s in preparation.

Marriage isn’t a trophy—it’s a path. And in this next era of transformation, those who choose it will need to walk in with wisdom, not just romance.

So cheers to the brides. Cheers to the single girls doing the inner work.
And cheers to the legacies we’re writing before the rings ever show up.